“Accepting reality is difficult when life is painful. No one wants to experience pain, disappointment, sadness, or loss. But those experiences are a part of life. When you attempt to avoid or resist those emotions, you add suffering to your pain. You may build the emotion bigger with your thoughts or create more misery by attempting to avoid the painful emotions. You can stop suffering by practicing acceptance.”
It is quite interesting to think accepting what we are not “okay” with is actually the key to living the value-driven life we all desire as humans. It is almost inevitable that things will not go as planned or we will hear unexpected news that makes us feel those difficult emotions, increasing the urge to avoid the thoughts and situations that caused us to feel those emotions. The more we try to avoid instead of accept, the more power and momentum the emotion and thoughts gain to keep us stuck and in a cycle of avoidance. Accepting what is or what isn’t is hard and takes the willingness to embrace what the human mind tries to protect us from, pain. The human mind cannot be suppressed and as much as it desires to protect us, it cannot help the thoughts and emotions from continuing to resurface. Acceptance IS possible and although it has the potential to make us feel worse in the short-term by facing what IS, in the long term acceptance can allow us to get back to living the life one desires by bringing the thoughts and emotions with us.