Should I be concerned if I lie all the time?
When we lie, we are telling an intentionally false statement. Reasons for lying can include; to control someone else, to cover up their bad behavior, avoid embarrassment, self-preservation, and at times to be polite (i.e. saying you like someone’s outfit when you really think it is hideous). Understanding why we lie is important to know if there is reason for concern.
When an average person lies they usually have a specific reason for lying. Compulsive or chronic liars are not necessarily attempting to gain anything with their lying behaviors and will lie regardless of the position they are in and for no real reason. For a person with an issue of compulsive lying, their need to manipulate the truth becomes comforting to them. Being honest can feel strenuous and troublesome leading them to feel more at ease telling a lie.
People who lie tend to have other identifiable mental health issues; such as social anxiety, low self-esteem, and sometimes personality disorders. All of which may lead to assorted lying habits. When a liar is choosing to lie they have a need to hide their true self. These motives vary from person to person, so reaching out to a mental health professional for help is a great route to go. The mental health professional can help you decipher why you lie and what you can do about it. Until you are able to schedule with a therapist, you can start changing your behavior by being honest with yourself and tolerating the distress of being honest with others. It will feel difficult to tell the truth after lying for so long; be kind to yourself, be patient, and understand that you are working to change your habits.